I am sorry I convinced you that running away was the best and only answer to the beatings and abuse you were suffering. I know that removing yourself from those situations “is” the only real solutions ... Although, I’ve learned that there are other, healthier, less damaging options to explore.
While you may be thinking that I’ll say, “just turn them in to child services,” I know you may not see that as a “healthy” choice, so let’s look at other options. Sometimes the seemingly obvious choice/answer isn’t always the best. In a situation where it may be that “dad” or “mom” is beating you, turning them into the authorities will probably just make things worse. So, as difficult as it may seem, you must proceed with caution. Think, actually make a list, if you can, of the options you have. Think about what happens “before” the situation becomes physical. Did they have a hard day? Were they drinking? Using drugs? Was it something you said? It’s not going to be easy, but in the end ... it may just save your life.
When you think about these things, it’s so important that you don’t think it’s all your fault. Because, while the things you come up with may be “reasons” ... They are never excuses, or validation of their actions. It is never right to beat a child (or anyone else). Share the list with someone you can trust. Know that you are not alone in your struggle to survive. I dare say the majority of children grow up in unhealthy environments. Are some worse than others? Of course! But my point is this: since we all come from some type of dysfunctional family, there are people who understand your situation. These are the ones you should seek out. Don’t be reluctant to talk to other adults. Chances are, they have a lot of knowledge they can offer.
Don’t be afraid to ask questions or ask someone to help you find out what certain words mean that you don’t quite understand. This is how you, yourself, will learn. Words hold great power. They are “good medicine”. And who knows... maybe someday the words you share may save the hardship of another. | RM