Family is man’s purpose, and women’s desire. It’s like a good movie that has the power to make you laugh, enjoy, suffer, and love.
People who don’t have a family wish they had one, and those who do complain about their family. In fact, we’ve all heard a friend or sibling criticize their family. The reality is that all human beings tend to criticize based on our experiences or points of view. Luckily life allowed me to know both sides of the coin on one side was a united family full of love and mutual support on the other side was a family in which heartbreak and disunity reigned. One afternoon in July, when analyzing the emotions and feelings I felt during these two stages of my life, I realized how important it is to have a family that understands you. When you grow up in a healthy and united family environment that promotes love and mutual understanding, life becomes easier. For example, when you were a child and you have a father or a mother who teaches you and guides you, it is much easier to be a good student. When you have family warmth, you feel secure and capable of achieving any goal this principle of cause and effect applies to all members of the family parents siblings children spouses etc.
On the opposite side of the coin, when you grow up in a family without mutual empathy or without love and care, life becomes complicated. On a mental and physical level, the nights become longer. Life becomes sad and insecure. For example when you grew up with parents who abused you physically or emotionally, it’s easier to develop feelings of resentment and anger. A lack of love have serious consequences.
According to psychologist Brian Tracy when family members hurt other members emotionally or physically, it is often because in the past they were hurt or abused. They are victims of victims. In other words, your great grandfather abused your grandfather. your grandfather abused your father. and your father abused you, creating this toxic cycle of upbringing or family curse, as I like to call it.
The reality is that first steps towards a happy family is learning to let go of negative emotions and learning to forgive. When I did this, my eyes opened to a new world. I was finally able to realize all the traumas and grief that my family carried when my mother was an adult. She still had a little girl who had been abused confused and hurt inside her. The same girl remains inside my grandmother’s tired body, and her mother, and her mother’s. The second step I discovered to counteract the problem that directly attacks the family nucleus is to develop high levels of compassion. Understanding compassion is feeling empathy for the victims, and being willing to try to understand the feelings and point of view of other family members.
Perfect families do not exist. All families are affected at some point by immaturity or a lack of experience. It is our responsibility to break family curses or parent toxic cycles. It is up to us to improve as parents, siblings, children, spouses. Remember that the best antidote to heal the wounds of a broken soul are love compassion and understanding. Today is your time to take action and to become the best version of yourself for your family when and where to start is up to you. | JLS